Year end is upon us and with it the mad rush to get everything done or won or have fun with family preferably recorded on Facebook, or Instagram etc etc while running like lemmings towards an imaginary cliff…..
Here is Markus Hirzig on Burnout. What does it mean and what to do?
For many years we had a very special cat in our home. He looked like an ordinary cat but actually he was more like a cross between a wizard and an angel. His real name was “Expelliarmus” but most people only knew him as “Pelly”.
How did he get such name?
When my son was about four I asked him if he would like a brother or sister and he replied, “No, I’d rather have a cat!” We were in the middle of renovations at the time, running backwards and forwards between two properties so the cat was put on hold. A few years later his father and I separated and I remembered my cat promise. Our kitten hunt led us to a nearby farmstead where a cute little grey tiger bounced towards my son while the rest of the litter ran into hiding. It was love at first sight. He may not have been the best looking of the litter but he had a lot of character and his face was totally unique. He had an exquisite orange tint to his nose and cheeks, as if he had dipped his face into a bowl of orange juice. Jules named the kitten “Expelliarmus” after a Harry Potter spell.
In the Potter world, Expelliarmus is a disarming charm, used for removing a weapon or wand from one’s opponent’s hand. And “disarming charm” is exactly what Pelly had; a charming way of reaching out to others that won the hearts of everyone he met.
Besides catching mice and doing whatever cats do (I’d hate to know), he would would pop in and visit all our neighbours to see how they were doing. He really showed them he cared. It wasn’t “cupboard love”, more like “unconditional love” which he spread very generously. He was the only cat I’ve ever met who could walk into any house in the street and receive a warm welcome whether there were other cats around or not. Even grumpy or normally unfriendly people loved him and felt honoured when he dropped in.
He was primarily an outdoors cat, sometimes disappearing for days, no-one knew where to, but eventually he’d return. One of his favourite activities was to go walking on the hill behind our house with an old neighbour who had plenty of time. (That’s the unfortunate thing about humans, as we grow up our territory expands exponentially compared to a cat’s territory and we are less and less around for old friends.) Recently the old man’s wife died and Pelly started spending more and more time with him, sitting on the old man’s lap or chest to keep him company.
Then one day Pelly didn’t come home for days. I knew he was helping our old neighbour recover from grief so let it be. Still, each day I thought to myself I need to go and check up on them but didn’t. Instead, I thought if anything happened I would be the first to hear. A few days later the old man came to tell me that Pelly had died. He had jumped through the cat door of a neighbour’s house while they were on holiday and for some unknown reason had not come back out. We are not sure if he died suddenly or if he was was unable to reach out and no-one came looking for him.
Throughout his life and even in death, Pelly taught us about the importance of caring for others by reaching out. We always think people will call us when they really need us but actually this seldom happens. Sometimes they just can’t, for various reasons. Pride, shame, feelings of unworthiness, illness, injury or even depression sets in and disables their capacity to reach out. It is up to us, like Pelly, to reach out and connect while we can; check up on our neighbours and old friends instead of waiting for them to come to us. Find out how things really are for them, and, instead of giving them our own heavy bags to carry, reach out and lighten their load a few paces to remind them of the beauty and wonder of life all around them. Also, like Pelly, it’s the people who you think are fine or better off than you that really need you to reach out, because everyone assumes they don’t need it when actually that is seldom the case. Take Robin Williams for example.
We live in a global village. Who can you reach out to today? Who comes to mind and you think “I’ll do it later” and then don’t? I wish I could tell you this story was inspired by Pelly’s life rather than his death. But that wouldn’t be true.
I’ve put this picture above of Pelly in our kitchen to remind myself and my son to “Exercise our Expelliarmus” – by reaching out to at least two people per day.
How about you? Are you exercising your Expelliarmus? Reaching out and connecting with others is what life is really about.
Markus Hirzig talks about how to find a healthy balance between safety and change.
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Some of the issues touched on in this call.
Why is courage not enough?
Are we trying to break through walls that don’t actually exist?
What is safety and trust and how do we develop this?
What are the hidden assumptions behind our need to belong?
Why do some creative people not have the capacity to manifest their ideas?
We also did a short guided meditation 17.20 into the call.
Next Earthuni Course with Markus starts April 2018
Always a Thursday at /am CET/Berlin. 6am UK. Thursday 3pm Sydney, Wednesday 10pm USA Pacific. Elsewhere
To join Markus for group coaching in 2018, find out more here.
People who register early will get some of the guided meditations from the 2017 course and we’ll start a Q&A below them
where you can post questions about them for Markus to answer so that others can also access the answers.
More about Markus on his website and in all our previous interviews.
Our next Earthuni open interview with Markus Hirzig is this Friday, September 29, 2017
– Topic – the game of curiosity and safety
In this call Markus will talk about safety and security as the base of our development. We will discuss the tension between curiosity and safety/belonging. What does belonging have to do with safety and why is this important for you to know right now.
Then Markus will share thoughts about the possibility of taking time to feel into change and look deeper.
How do we dare to move on, and risk change, even if the world doesn’t agree or support us?
Replay is here
This Tuesday, 12 September 2017, I’ll be interviewing
Ingeborg Bosch on Past Reality Integration.
What is PRI and how can it help you?
PRI is a shortcut to happier relationships, better parenting and a more functional life.
Past Reality Integration, PRI for short, helps you to live your life fully in the now. The clear, detailed model shows you how your past negatively impacts your present life. But, more importantly, PRI gives you the possibility to remove these blockages, with effective techniques and practical tools, that you can apply independently.
I met Ingeborg while in Findhorn last month, she was on holiday in Scotland and joined my life purpose workshop to inspire her 20 year old daughter. During the workshop I asked Ingeborg to demonstrate her work and was incredibly impressed with what I saw and experienced. She really has developed a great way to get out of your own way, and out of the past. What I really love about it is the DIY part. Many of us can start releasing the past by applying PRI principles immediately. And if not, there are many certified practitioners on her website.
Ingeborg is the author of 5 books: Past Reality Integration – 3 steps to mastering the Art of Conscious Living, Rediscovering the True Self, Illusions, and Innocent Prisoners – a book about conscious parenting (this particular book is not yet available in English but will be soon. The other 4 have been translated into both English and French, from the original Dutch.)
Ingeborg offers courses in PRI, and trains therapists in Netherlands, the South of France and online in 2018.
For more about her forthcoming PRI Level 1 Practitioner certification course see here.
The interview replay is here.
Ingeborg will be back with us early next year to discuss how PRI can help solve numerous conditions such as addiction, burnout, anger, jealousy, over-eating and much more.
Feedback on Inge’s books:
“I immediately bought 2 of your books and started practicing PRI. Even only after working by myself for a short time, I have managed to access some old pain and already feel all the lighter for it. And I am very much intending to continue deepening this process.
I would therefore like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this wonderful technique and body of knowledge. I consider this to be a precious gift to the world and one that deserves to be known about by as many people as possible.”
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John Beaulieu ND PhD is a clinical psychologist and Naturopathic Doctor. He also has degrees in music and studied with many of the giants in all three fields. He pioneered the principles of sound healing and has been teaching his methods internationally for over 40 years. He is the author of a number of books, including Human Tuning: Sound Healing with Tuning Forks, Music and Sound in the Healing Arts and Bellevue Memoirs: My patients My teachers about his experiences while he was head therapist at Bellevue, a famous psychiatric hospital in New York City.
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Are you awakening or self delusional? How to tell the difference?
This Tuesday, on May 23, 2017 we’ll be talking to Dr John Beaulieu about the sounds we hear, real or imagined. What causes them? What is the difference between tinnitus and hearing the sound of our own nervous system and mystical experiences? Could we tune into other states of consciousness? And what does this have to do with ascension?